So many things exist at the same time. I do something similar, and then have a much more well-thought soapbox speech later in the day. I like to think that in my initial anger, I am allowing myself to feel. In my "pushover" state, I am trying to extend grace to another human.
The topic itself is something I get irritated about. However, I hope to find a more healthy balance in asserting myself and rolling with the punches.
Yes. I can only speak for myself, but the aversion to assertiveness (and to the possible resulting conflict) is a consequence of not being taught (as a young person, by example or otherwise) how to be angry AND respectful/reasonable at the same time. Apparently it's possible. But I still find myself having to choose one—or, more accurately, having to allow my limbic system to choose for me. Either way, it doesn't feel great.
I hope you found water without too much extra trouble!
So many things exist at the same time. I do something similar, and then have a much more well-thought soapbox speech later in the day. I like to think that in my initial anger, I am allowing myself to feel. In my "pushover" state, I am trying to extend grace to another human.
The topic itself is something I get irritated about. However, I hope to find a more healthy balance in asserting myself and rolling with the punches.
Yes. I can only speak for myself, but the aversion to assertiveness (and to the possible resulting conflict) is a consequence of not being taught (as a young person, by example or otherwise) how to be angry AND respectful/reasonable at the same time. Apparently it's possible. But I still find myself having to choose one—or, more accurately, having to allow my limbic system to choose for me. Either way, it doesn't feel great.
I hope you found water without too much extra trouble!